The day our life changed forever November 4, 2025

Before Kinlee's accident (that's what we call it) Jerika would go to the gym in the mornings and I would get precious Lyvi time. It is true I may have been a little obsessed with her, but is that wrong? Look at that adorable face. This morning was no different we had the best morning and I got to love on her. Wow, writing this out is harder than I thought it would be. After Jerika picked her up my day went on as usual. I went to work, went to the devotional, talked to my friends and then before I went back to my office Ray called. He asked where I was and I told him I was just leaving the devotional to go back to my office. He said, "I am nearby, I am going to come visit you." That isn't completely abnormal, sometimes he comes and has lunch with me. But I still asked if everything was okay. Mind you that morning I had seen Kinlee's post on BeReal, so I thought she was okay and I was just waiting to hear from her. The minute he walked into my office I knew something was not right. He knelt down by my desk and told me that something had happened to Kinlee at the hospital and he didn't have any details but it wasn't good and she was being transferred to California via Life Flight. He didn't think she was awake but had no details. He said he had talked to Blake (Kinlee's husband) and his mom and our friend Brooke had booked a flight for them to San Diego and the hospital she was being transferred to was in Chula Vista, California. I let my bosses know what was happening and packed up and headed to home to get him packed. He told me that he didn't want me to go until we knew more details and if we would need to stay in California. So, I drove him to the airport and sent him off to California. Jerika, Lyvi, grandma and Nakia all came and stayed with me at the house for the next several hours while we waited for more news. I was in contact a little with Blake but he was focused on getting her out of Mexico and into California and little did we know it actually took them a very long time in Mexico to get her stabilized and try to figure out how to transport her. We didn't even know what happened to her or if she was awake or ANYTHING. It was horrible.

 

I came across this today

You may not like me or think I deserve the things that happen to me, but NOBODY AND I MEAN NOBODY should have to go through this kind of nightmare, especially twice. Going through my photo log today (because I am going to get it updated with all of Kinlee's recovery), I came across this picture.  WOW it is hard to look at, but here is what I have to say about it.

When we were in California I did this side by side of my 2 children. Jerika on the left, Kinlee on the right. I am really not a WHY ME kind of person, like I have said before but I am exhausted. You just never know what is coming next in life. And Boy have we had more than our share of doozies. But, THEY ARE BOTH ALIVE and I know some people aren't as lucky. So, today I consider myself to be very lucky. 

I LOVE THESE GIRLS.

 

Update among other things

I know you all want to see and hear about how Kinlee's doing and she's doing great. We still have some kinks to work out like getting any money from the government to help us, but that takes time. We have one last training today to hopefully start getting paid for our CFH (Certified Family Home) which is something we needed to do to keep Kinlee in our home and under our care. She still doesn't know simple things. She would never eat if she didn't have us. She has no concept of how all of that works. We are teaching her to get her own ice and water from the fridge and that has been a process too. But, we do know she can be taught and remember some things (not everything). She has no concept of time or days of the week. She can identify the numbers 1, 2, 3 and the letters A and B. She still can't write her name and really can't much at all, but is working to hard every day. She has visual agnosia and doesn't recognize anyone in any pictures at all. Those are just a few of the things we are dealing with. But we know that she can learn and it will take time and she's only 25 she has time. But let me tell that our girl is a complete delight. She is so happy and loves learning. She very seldom gets upset except when she can't do something she is trying to hard to do or when we make her eat and she doesn't want to. We are hoping with her kidney stone gone, that will get better with time as well. And boy does she love Chick-fil-a. WE LOVE HAVING HER SWEET SPIRIT IN OUR HOME

Last week after I made a post of Facebook I got a nasty text saying how dare I imply Blake wasn't a good husband. I will tell you that Blake was an amazing husband until he wasn't, see the letter in the post below. I have had so much grace for Blake this entire time and I have said numerous times that I don't even know what I would do at this age if something happened to my spouse. So, at his age it is even harder. However, he let his parents take over which made it impossible to deal with any of them. It didn't have to end the way it did, but they chose to get nasty. Which is so sad and we know he was just doing like he was told (like most of the other decisions in his life). The text I got also said I was lying about everything. But, I want to just state for the record I have proof of everything I have said, because there is absolutely no reason to lie about anything. We are good people and the people who are calling us the bad are feeling guilty about the way they handled everything. I will end with the following sentence and context of a post I shared on Facebook.

I DID NOT HAVE TO END THIS WAY!!

Judas is a reminder that betrayal does not always come from strangers.

Sometimes it comes from people who sat at your table, heard your prayers, knew your struggles, and still chose to hurt you.

Jesus shared meals with Judas.

Walked beside him.

Trusted him.

Loved him.

Yet Judas still betrayed Him with a kiss.

That is why some of the deepest pain in life comes from those we never expected to wound us.

The ones we welcomed into our lives.

The ones we prayed with and cared for.

The ones we believed would always be loyal.

But even in betrayal, God is still sovereign.

What hurt you did not surprise Him.

What broke your heart did not escape His notice.

And just as God carried Jesus through betrayal, He will carry you too.

Do not let betrayal harden your heart.

Let it make you wiser, stronger, and more dependent on God.

Because people may fail you, but the Lord never will.

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3

Welcome

 Welcome to those of you who are new here. I have had this blog since 2008 and I really try to keep it updated regularly. My main focus the last few weeks was letting those of you who wanted to know what happened with Kinlee's husband and why she got divorced could read it here. I was leery after I posted the first post and then I removed the most detained one. After talking to our attorney I can tell our story however I want because none of it is a lie, even though his family is denying a lot of what we have said.