The Letter

The Condensed Version

"YOU GOT HER."

Those are the words her mom heard clearly while praying the other night, trying to let go of the anger over the injustice done to her child. And it’s true. Her parents have her. She is safe, she is thriving, and she is surrounded by people who actually love her.

Many of you have been asking: "What happened with her husband?"

The short answer is heartbreaking. We knew early on that if her recovery was long, we wouldn't judge him for needing to move on—he is young. But we were wrong about his character. While they all were in California, we heard the conversations with his father telling him to come home and go back to work because she was "no longer his problem."

Sadly, he chose that path. He didn't spend a single night alone with her during her entire hospitalization. When she got home to Idaho, he essentially held her life hostage.

The Reality of the Last Few Months:

• The "Hostage" Situation: He refused to give her clothes, shoes, or personal items back. They had to buy her an entirely new wardrobe because he claimed he "couldn't find" her things.

• The Blackmail: He used the threat of a Guardianship battle to force them into a divorce settlement that favored him. We know she wouldn't even recognize him if they passed on the street, yet he used his legal status as her husband to squeeze her financially.

• The Financial Blow: Despite claiming he would help, he took $ out of his retirement which effectively wiped out any tax refund she would get as per the Divorce Decree. He walked away with the savings and community property, leaving his disabled wife with nothing but her car and her personal belongings.

• The Lies: His family has been spreading rumors that she "deserved" this for having surgery, or that I am "manipulating" her recovery.

To the people saying these things: we have the documentation. We have the emails, the texts, and the recorded calls. We chose to sign the Divorce "stipulation" not because it was fair, but because we wanted him out of her life before the Guardianship hearing. We traded money for her peace.

The Good News: The divorce was finalized this week. We finally got her personal items back. When she saw her things and got her phone back, she cried.

To HIM: You had every chance to just walk away with grace. Instead, you chose to be unkind to a woman you promised to love in sickness and in health and to love honor and cherish.