Thursday, March 12, 2026

What a difference one day can make

Kinlee went to Mexico to have gastric sleeve surgery. I know she was worried about going so I was worried for her.

This was my snap the morning she had Surgery.

This was that evening after the surgery. She Facetimed us and was doing awesome. Considering she had just had surgery.

This was her BeReal the morning after her surgery. It was right after this that she told Blake she didn't feel good and she passed out. She suffered some sort of cardiac event and her heart stopped beating. They gave her CPR for 22 minutes and shocked her heart twice. They were able to get her heart going again, but the damage was done. 22 very long minutes without oxygen to her brain. Blake called Ray and his mom and they booked flights to California because the hospital she was in was getting her transported there, either by air or regular ambulance. Well, that took forever, but they did get her across the boarder before Ray and Blake's mom arrived at the Sharp Chula Vista Hospital. I stayed home so that Ray could assess the situation and make sure we both needed to be there. We knew she was still alive but that was about all. Come to find out Blake had to pay the hospital $6000 to get them to release her so they could transfer her to the USA. Luckily his dad had an account hooked to his and they were able to get that done. He also had to pay the ambulance people $550 to transport her to the US. When he didn't have it in cash, they were going to take her back into the hospital until he got the money. Also luckily one of the administrators at the hospital gave him the cash to pay them so she could get the help she needed. While Ray was still in the air and I was home with Jerika, Lyvi, mom and Nakia feeling totally helpless, I decided she needed a blessing. Jerika googled LDS churches in Chula Vista California and only one came up. It had a picture of the church and a phone number so we called the phone number and someone actually answered. Now if you know about phones in the LDS churches, you know they frequently go unanswered for some unknown reason. Well, someone answered the phone. He talked to others around him and then he gave me the number to the missionaries. I called the number and they didn't answer, so Nakia sent them a text. They called me back shortly after that and asked what they could do to help. I had already called Blake to make sure they would let them into the Emergency Room to give her a blessing and they said yes. So, when they called me I told them what had happened and where she was and that she desperately needed a blessing. And they said they would head right over there. They texted me back about an hour later and told me they had found her and given her a blessing and they felt like everything would be alright. I want to make a list of miracles through this and maybe I will do it at the end of each post.  Ray and Blake's mom got there about 10 that night. Ray said that when they got there the ER doctor told him she most likely wouldn't make it through the night. They did a lot in the ER that evening and got her stabilized and got her moved to the ICU. Ray called me about 2 am and I just knew he was calling to tell me she was gone. But it was just to tell me they got her into a room and they were leaving to go to the hotel. In the ICU there nobody could stay with the patient after 8:00 pm, which we thought was crazy. Someone was able to stay with Jerika at night when she was in the ICU. But we complied which was good because we at least were able to try to sleep.

Miracles: She was in a hospital and they were able to start CPR immediately, Blake's dad was able to transfer the money, the hospital administrator giving them $550, the ambulance was smoking when it got to the hospital so the fact they made it is a miracle, Jerika finding that exact church to call, the missionaries answering the phone, the missionaries actually finding the right hospital (even the life flight team went to the wrong hospital), she is alive.

 

Tuesday, March 3, 2026

WE ARE HOME

 One of these days I will update everything on here from Kinlee's NIGHTMARE cardiac arrest.

Today I am here to vent and since nobody reads my blog its a good place and I just want to get it off my chest.

We are trying to certify our home so Jerika can take care of Kinlee and get paid to do it. At least that is what I think we are doing THIS PROCESS IS A FREAKING NIGHTMARE. One person says we can use one company and they will pay her and keep track of all of Kinlee's expenses for us. Another person says if she's approved for disability they will pay for her care. Another person says we have to get our home certified and we all get paid to take care of her.  I DON'T FREAKING KNOW WHO TO BELIEVE ANYMORE AND QUITE FRANKLY WHAT TO DO. We had to get an attorney for us to be deemed her Guardians. We haven't gotten the bill for that yet, but we are now her temporary guardians, but we have to go to court in April to make it permanent. With that we have to pay the attorney, Kinlee's court appointed attorney, the court visitor and the doctor who examines her then has to testify in court. Just the court visitor is $600. Then to certify our home, it costs for the background check, the test at CEI for med pass, we have to have 3 inspections at roughly $200 each, we have to take a CPR class that costs who knows how much and take another class. Not to mention the attorney again for that court date. DON'T GET ME WRONG WE WILL PAY FOR WHATEVER WE NEED TO TO ENSURE SHE IS TAKEN CARE OF BY US AND THE BEST PEOPLE AVAILABLE. BUT HOW TO PEOPLE AFFORD ALL OF THIS? We have already paid Jerika out of pocket close to $1,000 to take care of her. And we have to buy all her food and protein drinks. ONCE AGAIN I AM NOT COMPLAINING. I AM SO HAPPY SHE IS ALIVE!!! WHAT DO PEOPLE DO WHO CAN'T PAY ALL THESE THINGS UP FRONT. WE ARE RUNNING OUT OF EXTRA $$ AND YOU'VE SEEN OUR MEDICAL LIST aka the reason we have no extra money just laying around. Ray has had to take on some side jobs just to make ends meet until we can get approved for help with her. And her husband decided to jump ship. We are fine with that he is young, but he wants 30 days to really decide. During that 30 days we aren't allowed to contact him or anyone in his family while he decides what to do. In the meantime holding all of her possessions except for a few things he had brought to Utah and some underwear and sweatshirts he brought to the house. So, we've had to buy her new clothes, shoes, everyday items and other things that we are certain he has in storage. She's been wearing my clothes.

What a difference one day can make

Kinlee went to Mexico to have gastric sleeve surgery. I know she was worried about going so I was worried for her. This was my snap the morn...