I'll Post it Here so as not to offend 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

After going through what Jerika has been through I have come up with a few helpful hints that might come in handy for others going through the same thing. 

Yup mama bear just a little bit.  Here you go.....

Things not to say

When someone experiences a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy, it's crucial to be sensitive and empathetic. Avoid saying the following:

1. "At least you know you can get pregnant now", "At least you can try again" or "You can have another baby" – This can dismiss the grief of losing this pregnancy.

2. "Everything happens for a reason" – It can feel invalidating and minimize their loss.

3. "It wasn't meant to be" – Similar to the above, it can come across as dismissive of their pain.

4. "You're still young" or "At least you weren’t further along" – These statements minimize the emotional weight of the loss, regardless of age or how far along the pregnancy was.

5. "There must have been something wrong with the baby" – While it might be factually accurate in some cases, it's often not helpful to hear.

6. "You should be grateful for the children you have" – If they have other children, this minimizes their grief for the lost one.

7. "I know how you feel" – Even if you've had a similar experience, everyone's grief is unique.

Instead, offer your support by saying things like, "I'm so sorry for your loss," "I'm here for you," or simply, "Would you like to talk about it?". Let them lead the conversation, and respect their need for space or time to grieve.

If you have gotten this far thank you for reading. Another thing that is helpful...

Do reach out even if you have a baby or you are pregnant she wants to celebrate your happiness. She is responding slowly to messages, which she did anyway so that didn't change. She knows who has checked on her and who genuinely cares so thank you for that it matters. She didn't just lose a baby she almost lost her life too. 

Be her friend and Just be gentle. 🩷💜🩷💜

Jerika's Post

It’s been 30 days since I almost lost my life. I’m still hearing things that happened to me that make me wonder how did I even live? How did my body make it through all that trauma? Wait I was actually able to get pregnant? Why did this have to happen? 

I’ve had so much time to think, my mind literally goes around in circles, but regardless I’m so grateful I get a second chance at life. I’ve had so many questions about all of it, but I needed time to process for myself. I had the opportunity to meet the amazing EMTs who kept me alive on the way to both hospitals, the nurses at Madison who were by my side making sure I was getting everything I needed, and the Doctor from Madison who could have gone home because he was off shift but stayed because I desperately needed one on one attention. Meeting with them, and hearing their point of views, what was going on in their heads, and the process of everything that happened to me was extremely healing. I still have a long ways to go but I’m in a better head space so I thought I’d share a little bit of my story especially for those that have followed our fertility journey the last 6 years. 

There’s truly so many details and miracles that happened during all of this but I’ll give you just a brief little bit. Sunday September 15th I started randomly passing out, my blood pressure was 40/20, my blood sugar was over 500, my heart was racing, and I had to be shocked by a defibrillator twice but it was unknown what was happening to me. I spent multiple hours at Madison Memorial intubated because they just could not figure out what was wrong with me, they loaded me up in the ambulance to take me to Idaho Falls Community Hospital, as they were getting ready to leave the CT scan results came back I was bleeding internally from an ectopic pregnancy, I was 9 weeks along and had 0 idea I was even pregnant. My fallopian tube had burst, 5 of the 7 units of blood in my body was in my abdomen, at one point all the blood in my body wasn’t even mine. I was rushed to Idaho Falls for emergency surgery, Monday they had to take me back in to do the same surgery to make sure I wasn’t still bleeding. I was heavily sedated and on a ventilator for 3 1/2 days before I woke up in the ICU & had to hear the most devastating news. My Doctor has told me many times that he is unsure how I survived this, I was his scariest patient in 25 years, but I’m a miracle, and I truly feel that. I feel so incredibly blessed not only to be alive but that I literally had the most amazing EMTs & teams at both hospitals taking the best care of me. This truly was the craziest thing I’ve ever experienced, but I pray that one day I get the privilege to be able to bring a little one into this world but until then I hope my story can help someone and I can be an advocate for women struggling with fertility. 

Hope gets the last word.

Part 11 What Happened

I've had several people ask me exactly what happened to Cade N Jerika Robinson  

She had an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured and caused major internal bleeding and we are lucky she is alive. She had several bloodI've had several people ask me exactly what happened to Cade N Jerika Robinson  

She had an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured and caused major internal bleeding and we are lucky she is alive. She had several blood transfusions which totalled 8 units of blood. Everyone that worked on her says it's a miracle she's alive. So thank you to everyone who donates blood. She was was intubated for 3.5 days with no side effects which is also a miracle. So that's the cliff notes version of what happened. transfusions which totalled 8 units of blood. Everyone that worked on her says it's a miracle she's alive. So thank you to everyone who donates blood. She was was intubated for 3.5 days with no side effects which is also a miracle. So that's the cliff notes version of what happened.

Part 10

Gosh I am a blubbering idiot today. Today is really the first day since September 15th that I've had a few minutes to myself to really injest the reality of what actually happened. I'm looking through pictures, videos, texts, posts and the astonishing donations that were made on behalf of my miracle girl & her family. I really don't know how to thank everyone enough for everything that was done on behalf of our family. I knew we had amazing people in our lives but this is truly confirmation. When I told Jerika about the GoFundMe & Venmos while she was still intubated she shook her head no & then tears started rolling down her cheeks. If you know her at all you know she's a giver not a taker so that part was so hard for her. But those donations have helped more than anyone will ever know. I know we can't return all the goodness that was shared with us but we as a family have agreed to do our best to pay it forward in every way possible. To the nurses & other healthcare professionals, paramedics & EMTs you people are rock stars. You should all get paid accordingly, which I know for a fact you are all very underpaid for what you do. Last week Jerika went to meet some of those rock stars that undoubtedly saved her life. That's a story she will soon share. 

I have new found heartbreak for my own mom & many friends who have lost children & what unbearable agony they have gone through. I truly believe those women are without a doubt angels walking on this earth. I still will be sharing the story in it's entirety from my point of view, but we are deciding the best way & platform to share that. So stay tuned. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. 🩷💜

Part 9 These are my Facebook Posts

I'll do all the other catch-ups and pictures later.

I deleted my post from last night in case anyone was wondering. I still have the comments that were made and I appreciate those. Like I said in that post, I feel like social media isn't a safe place right now. People are so mean and quite frankly I don't have time in my life for hate right now and I'm a little scared for a few reasons. If you would like to see that post I'm happy to DM it to you. I also deleted a post I made on a community page today because the comments turned nasty on my very nice post and thus causing all those nasty comments to be deleted. I also shut down commenting on another one of my posts today also. I'm just appalled really at how mean and entitled people have become. 

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Part 8

I am going to give a quick update on Jerika. I was going to share more of the miracles because there were so many but I'm not feeling very safe in this space right now. Yes, I may get a little political on my social media, but let's remember it is my social media and I can say whatever I want. But for someone who doesn't agree with me politically to basically say my daughter deserved what she went through because we don't agree with Roe vs Wade is going too far. That person has been blocked because quite frankly she's a monster. Unfollow me or whatever you have to do because I will not put up with negativity against my family because of my political beliefs or any other beliefs for that matter. My daughter almost died and we are learning more details daily about how close we were to losing her. She doesn't require 24 hour care anymore so that's a huge blessing but she still has a long road to completely recover mentally and physically. Nobody deserves what she went through and I mean nobody. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

Jerika Part 7 September 27

We took Jerika home tonight to sleep in her own bed. We are so proud of her progress and determination to get better. It's my first night in 12 days not under the same roof as her, which I have very mixed feelings about. Her sister still won't leave her so she is helping again tonight at Jerika's house. Kinlee has taken care of her every night and most of the days since she's been out of the hospital. It is probably time for her to go home so Cade can help take care of her in the evenings. He's been so patient with us and our need to help take care of her while he's been working and going to school. We're just so glad she's alive and doing better than anyone could have predicted. Thanks again for all the prayers and donations. 😘🥰😍💜

Jerika Part 6

A big thank you those who took time out of their busy lives to be at the hospital with us last week. The visits from friends and family as we sat for 6 straight days in the hospital only leaving twice. The ones who just knew what we needed including food, phone calls and shoulders to cry on. We couldn't have done last week alone. You know who you are and your kindness will never be forgotten. The big brother that had just barely met his sister a few short weeks ago but made the effort to come to the hospital almost every day to check on his sister and make sure the rest of us were okay too. Our support system is amazing. It was hard sitting in the same waiting room we sat in just last year while my dad slowly deteriorated and lost his battle against cancer. But you people showed up and helped us stay positive even though it was so hard for you in that room too. You people are just one more Miracle to add to our list 💜💜

Jerika Part 5

I've never been happier to have all my humans together in the same place. This week was Brutal. The doctor told us today when he released Jerika that she was his most critical patient in all the 25 years of him being a doctor and that he didn't think she would make it. With Jerika's permission I will share some of the miracles, tender mercies and stories from the week. If any of us were questioning our testimony at the beginning of the week all of us could tell you for a fact there is a God and he is good and saved our girl. Thanks again everyone for everything.

Jerika Part 4

We have had several people ask for Jerika's venmo here is Cade's @Cade-Robinson-12 (last 4 of phone 3932) 

For those who have asked what they can do to help this would be it since she won't be returning to work for awhile. When we told her how much people were helping she cried.

This picture is a pretty good indication of what a lot of her body looks like. I have never seen so many bruises ever. It took a lot of work to keep her alive.

Jerika Part 3

"God will always make a way where there is no way." 

- Gordon B. Hinckley

This quote sums this week up beautifully and accurately. I cannot express how thankful I am to a loving Heavenly Father who constantly took care of Jerika this week. She is out of the ICU as of this afternoon. They keep telling us she is a miracle and her progress is unheard of. We aren't sure when we get to take her home but we are just thankful she has made it this far. She won't be able to return to work for awhile so we are more than thankful for the donations and prayers. You will never understand how much it means to them and us. 

And I can't end this post without thanking the doctors, nurses, hospital staff and EMTs that worked so hard to save her life. We are hearing stories that are unbelievable and show us without a doubt God had everyone where they needed to be at exactly the right time for her to survive. I can't thank everyone enough 💜💜💜

September 17 Part 2

I cannot let this day end without thanking everyone from the bottom of my heart. This little girls mama is breathing on her own tonight. Jerika is a Miracle!!!! The tender mercies are innumerable the blessings never ending. She is going to have a long road to recovery as would anyone after what she's been through. We can't thank you all enough for the prayers and donations. We are astounded by the outpouring of love. The doctors are still amazed at her progress. I was able to hear her beautiful voice tonight. I never thought I would be so thankful to hear someone talk to me. Thank you all again. Some have asked for their venmo and it is @cade-robinson-12 and his last 4 of his phone is 3932. God is real and miracles do happen we witnessed it this week💜

@jer.robinson

I also have to thank Madison Memorial Hospital and the EMTs on the ambulance and Idaho Falls Community Hospital. These people saved her life.

Jerika's scary journey Part 1

The last few days have been the worst of my life. No mother should ever have to watch their child go through this nightmare. Thank you for all your prayers we feel them. So many of you have asked what you can't do to help. Here is Cade N Jerika Robinson venmo @Cade-Robinson-12

and a go fund me below. We have no idea how long she'll be intubated or anything else in all honesty. This will help lighten their load. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. Please keep them coming they are working. 💜💜😘

This deserves its own post Introducing Landry

Ray has another son we didn't know about.  Landry is amazing and we couldn't love him any more than we do in the short time we have known him.  And we also added Megan and 2 grandkids Harrison and Brynlynn.

 

Jerika's birthday and a few other things

 

Lyvi's Parties yes I said parties

 

July to right before Lyvi's Birthday